Welcome back, Imthemom. It’s nice to see you back.
Maybe since you’re on the road to self-discovery again, you could change your name to Imtheone. You mentioned living in the moment, so maybe Imherenow would work too.
Anyway, smiles and best wishes to you in your new life.
Don, I second the prayers. I mean, this stuff is tough, no doubt, but the day that you feel like a whole person again comes a lot sooner than you think it might.
Imthemom … You sound like a very courageous lady and a wonderful mother who loves her babies … I applaud you Honey for your brave and good heart …
Don…I’m so sorry Darling … You are always in Miss Susan’s & Mr.Paul’s prayers …
God Bless And Keep You Both…
It is god to hear there is a day when things mae a turn for the better. I have just started the whole process and my month of November was one o fthe lowest times in my life.
Thanks for the good news and the hope that there is a better day ahead.
Welcome back to roadfood
I’d thought about you over the last couple years and glad to hear the report.
Hello, welcome and glad that you’re doing well.
You’re right about the Roadfood people. Great bunch!
Welcome back. It is good to read about the changes for the better that have occurred.
I wasn’t around for the first half of this thread, Mom, but it’s great to hear that you’re happy again! You know, you’re still the mom, right?
Yeah, we tease her a lot, ’cause we got her on the spot…welcome back!
Having never been married and thus never been divorced, I cannot identify… but I can give you a shoulder to lean on. Hmmm… guess I’m running a little bit late. Sounds like you’ve worked everything out pretty well… or at least ARE working it out, one chunk at a time. Best wishes and good luck; the shoulder’s still there if you ever need it.
You’re still the mom, but perhaps your new post name can be something that we’ll know immediately… like WastheMom. Oh, I’m not feeling eloquent tonight… I’ve got a sniffle and can’t think quite properly… like my brain’s as stopped up as my sinuses.
Keep in touch with us and keep us posted on how you’re doing. We indeed do care about you.
NottheDad, Ort. Carlton in Amazing-But-Sometimes-Lonelifying Athens, Georgia.
P. S. In view of my "kind-of-late"ness, I’ve decided to reopen this city’s Hupmobile dealership… 23 skidoo, everyone. Tee hee.
York Tavern…minutes from my house and a favorite of mine…it was even more of a Roadfood place in the old building!
Tremendous. Our trial is this friday. I know what you mean about feeling alive again.[;)]
Welcome to the rest of your life.[:D]
A little while ago, I was pleased to receive an unexpected and very thoughtful email from another Roadfood member, who was just checking in to see how I was doing, and he happened to mention that in many ways Roadfood is like a family, which I heartily agree.
So, in the spirit of staying in touch with family during the holidays, I thought I d just let you know how I m doing, and get re-acquainted with everyone.
My divorce was final at the end of January 2008, so it was a two-year process. I handled the emotional, financial and legal situations very well, I think … kept the best interests of my children in mind … tried to deal with the trauma and drama without extending or shortcutting the necessary stages of change and adjustment. I live much more in the "present moment" now than I ever did before. I have a sense of optimism and hope for the future. Although my recovery was actually slow and steady, I eventually had a day in August 2008 when suddenly, and for no reason, I just realized I m happy again and it s been good ever since.
As I return to some of my old interests and develop some new interests, I expect to be a "Roadfood Regular" again. I want to change my username, but I’m not sure yet how I want to define myself. Previously "ImTheMom" was perfect because "mom" was my favorite role, and conveyed in a single word that my life was exquisitely blessed yet aggravatingly challenged all at the same time LOL! Still love being a mom, but now I need to find a descriptive name that reflects a wider array of my personal characteristics.
I have a profile on a popular Internet dating website Plenty of Fish and I ve had both good and bad experiences in meeting guys there. Recently, the plentyoffish and roadfood websites overlapped for me when a guy took me to dinner at York Tavern in Oak Brook, IL, which is definitely a Roadfood-worthy establishment, and led me to think about all of you again. Cozy local atmosphere, excellent hamburgers. I highly recommend it.
Thank you again to Rick for sending the check-in email to me, and hello and happy holidays to all of you. It feels good to be back!
I’m so sorry to hear about this. Some of the comments made were not that nice (it takes two to tango), and there were many that were good. I think you are doing the right thing supporting your children and not painting Daddy as the nasty bastard he is. Even if this doesn’t work out, he is still their father, and as they get old enough, they will learn the real story and form their own opinions. For now, they need both of you.
Mosca mentioned paying the bills. Thats a good idea, but you should see a lawyer immediately. He left you for another woman. Even if this new relationship doesn’t work out for him, he has shown himself to be a cheater. If the two of you do not get back together, you need to freeze his assets NOW to protect yourself and the children, and I say this not knowing if you are employed, have a high or low paying job, or are a stay at home Mother.
See a lawyer and let that wandering philandering husband of yours know that his affair is going to cost him dearly, and he is not going to leave you and the kids on the short end of the financial stick.
Also, if he comes back and tries to make up, please practice safe sex with him if you even consider doing it. Who knows where he has been fooling around and what he has picked up. You don’t need to have him hurt you by passing on something else besides the loads of hurt he has already dumped on you.
Good luck, and I hope you have friends and famaily nearby to give you the support you need and deserve at this time.
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