BTW, just to give you an idea: The Mitzvah Magazine reports that a common size for these "affairs" is like 150 adults/100 chilren, 140 adults/100+ children, or as it quotes: "200 people for lunch, then 100 kids at night."….
I catered a bas mitzvah party in October that was more elaborate and expensive than many wedding receptions we’ve catered. It was fabulously over the top. It did remind me of the movie Ellen mentioned, Keeping Up with the Steins. A funny, sweet movie.
Oy Vey I think is the term. Maybe mashoogana (SP?) too.
It’s gotten ridiculous… I agree..
What’s happening, is the parents feel like they have to "reciprocate", as the kid just went to a party at Yankee Stadium, or whatever. They can’t suddenly be cheap and have their party at the Elks Club.
My sister could’nt believe it once, when she saw elephants coming down her street. Apparently it was all part of a kids b-day party…(elephant rides)
There was a very entertaining movie, on that theme, called Keeping up with the Steins, regarding Bar Mitvahs.
Growing up, we had MY Bas Mitzvah party right in our house. We kept it simple, but real yummy; we had deli trays: pastrami, turkey, etc…
the good stuff, (not the "dreck")
and had some delicious choc cake for dessert. (people kept for months that it was the best Mitzvah party they ever went to).
We were just a solid middle class family, and plus in those days, people were not trying to outdo each other as much.
I’m all for backyard weddings, and stuff like that.
I just picked up a copy of "Mitzvah Magazine", a glossy production from "New York Family Magazine" "suggesting" ideas for the pre-teen event. It was amazing, outrageous, etc. There is a spiriual service in the temple followed by a can-you-top-this meal/event. In some Hispanic areas, Quinceneras are the equivalent. I guess maybe Sweet 16s too.
Sample meals listed:
Chilled lobster/rack of lamb (parents), Caesar salad/chicken parmesan (kids) or Appetizer of seared tuna and spinach/choice of sea bass/filet mignon (parents), buffet of steak, mini-hot dogs, chicken and make-your-own salads (kids)
OK, but don’t forget other details advertised: Portable Chocolate "Fountains" (for dipping), Mowi-Wowee Smoothies (complete with Hawaiian shirted attendants), specially designed cookies in child’s name, custom cakes, make-your-own omelets.
Here’s a few venues that advertize in the magazine so you can hold the event there: Yankee Stadium Executive Suites, Lincoln Center, ESPN Zone, Castle-on-the Hudson (a huge castle/historic hotel), BB King’s Blues Club, Chelsea Piers Lighthouse, Rainbow Room (Rockefeeler Center), Cipriani’s Grand Prix NY Racetracks, Metropolitan Club, numerous hot discos and clubs. If you have it at the Boathouse in Central Park, you can have gondola rides on the lake at cocktail hour.
A short guide "suggests" planning 2 years in advance and discusses such requirements as "theme" (such as Pink, Broadway, Amusement Park, Elegant, Celebrity, etc), party planners (to work "with" you or just tell you when to show up) invitation calligraphers, music specialists DJ,s live music, live dancers), florists, lighting designers, party favors, photographers (for event and to make montages to show at event) Special shops for dresses and suits are advertized (including Vera Wang. Also custom-made designer dresses are available.)Also you can hire some talent (caricaturists, jugglers)although I have also heard that NFL or NBA players are a hit.
The magazine "reminds" parents" This is not a wedding just a celebration of you child’s accomplishments.
The magazine concludes with a huge ad from Princeton Review Roadmap to College Admissions.
After reading all this, I don’t know what to say…
Quinceneras, Bar/Bas Mizvahs, over-the-top meals
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