If anyone thinks that complaints about excessive perfume/cologne are just a "controlling" behavior, then they should be very grateful about not having asthma. I can tell you that the scents of some perfumes/colognes produce breathing difficulties for me within, literally, just a minute or so. If you visualize a fish flopping around on dry land, then you will have a small indication of how an asthmatic feels when an asthmatic spasm occurs. It is not pleasant, and for some people, the severity of it can be life threatening. Please folks–lighten up with the scent!
The stories of people who leave a trail of scent reminded me of someone with whom I attended college, back in the ’60s. Joe "T" was a heavy smoker. He also, apparently, did not use a deodorant. However, he liked to liberally douse himself with Old Spice cologne every morning. Old Spice is not really an offensive scent, in my opinion, but one would have to really, really like it in order to not be overwhelmed by the amount that Joe "T" enveloped himself in.
Anyway, as a result, our friend Joe had a characteristic scent that was composed of equal parts of cigarette smoke, B.O., and Old Spice. I thought that perhaps I was the only one who noticed this characteristic scent until one day when I was walking up a stairway with a few other people. As soon as we entered the stairwell, one of them sniffed, and said, "Oh, Joe "T" must have been here just before us". Everyone agreed that the stairwell smelled like Joe "T". Upon further checking, it turned out that he had been in that stairwell at least 10 minutes prior to our arrival. So, that gives you an idea of how long certain scents–both natural and induced–can linger.
For those of you who use more than a dab or two of perfume or cologne, I suggest two things:
*Be sure that you are bathing often enough so that you don’t have to use a lot of scent in order to mask any offensive body odors.
*Remember that you are potentially causing serious health problems for some people with your excessive use of scent.
Indeed i worked at a fine dining restaurant and both females and males working as servers would smell like they bathed in the stuff!!
I rarely wear perfume, my husband thinks any perfume is too strong. I will say i wish perfume bottles came with a applicator that looks like a Q tip so you can place the perfume exactly where you want it instead of the "Spray" effect which looks like half of it misses your body and too much comes out anyway.
Anyone have that Schaffenburger "Chocolate" perfume???
Oh well, different story. Whew. At least he’s not a raincoat-wearing lech.
I am guilty of dousing myself in the car, too.
Let’s hope you really aren’t "dousing"…remember the "Two-Drop_Rule! Seriously, thewre are quite a few folks at my job that I can identify from the lingering odor of too much cologne; it happens in the elevators, break rooms, bathrooms..anything smaller than the warehouse sized open space I work in, and some of these stinkers even leave a scent trail so you can tell when they’ve passsed even when you don’t see them. Yes, this is a big ol pet peeve of mine, and no I am not a floppy eared hound dawg!
As to people who waaaay overdo it and then get in my car or house, I try to make the activities for "outside’ or "not at my place" after I notice it’s a chronic habit.
If your workplace doesn’t have inter-office mail envelopes, or if you are afraid it might be obvious where the note came from since there are not very many departments, get a Wal-Mart or Dollar Store type plain white envelope, type the note for it and type the recipient’s name and home address on the envelope, with no return address, put on a stamp, and mail it. If the cologne is causing a medical problem, you might casually mention this as a reason for your request. That way you wouldn’t have to get anyone else involved, but you could still remain anonymous.
Anonymously, 1nonie. Does your office use those manila envelopes with holes and multiple lines for the address for intra-office mail? Get an envelope from some other department so it doesn’t have your name, or that of anyone close to you, on it, and then put a typed, short and pleasant note saying something like "Please don’t be hurt, but we wish you would use less cologne" in it, and have someone whose handwriting the offender won’t recognize write in that name.
Alternately, you could talk to that person’s supervisor, but then you’ve just passed the buck.
Remember those commercials where someone leaves the mouthwash bottle on the offender’s desk? That’s what you call public humiliation and it usually backfires. Don’t. The method above only involves one co-conspirator.
Very well said.
So how do you tell a worker not to wear sooooo much perfume? Help.reply to this site. Thanks
Howard, as someone who can suffer from asthma when exposed to certain strong odors, I can assure you that the situations being referred to are not just controlling complaints. I have heard those comments from people I work with as well in reference to someone in the office.
When you start weezing and choking for air, because your lungs are constricted after you got a wiff of strong perfume or smoke, that is a serious medical problem, not an overactive imagination or desire to control. When I am breathing fine and someone else is complaining of headaches, I do tend to take them with a grain of salt.
Louisiana is a different sort of place. I’m almost 60 and I can’t recall ever having been in a grocery store that allowed smoking inside–and I’ve lived in Washington, Maryland, North Carolina, Florida, Arizona, California, Hawaii and various spots around the world. Maybe it’s time to write Baton Rouge.
In The new movie Anchorman there is a very funny scene involving cologne. A member of the anchor team show his vast assortment of colognes, (including London Gentleman, I guess a take off of English Leather). The one chose to pick up Veronica Corningstone is called Sex Panther(made with real [panther.) When he comes out of the office he co workers are nauseated by the smell, comparing in to Indian food, and a soiled diaped covered in burnt hair. Wacky stuff.
I try to dab a bit of perfume on my wrist or my neck, or if i am feeling like the single femme fatale that i am, spray it in the air and walk through it upon leaving the room..however, I find it offensive to be seated near someone who overused perfume or cologne, or having a waiter or waitress near who is wearing an overpowering scent…especially in the Spring and Fall when allergies are common among diners…. while dining with some co workers in the Spring 7 persons in our party of 8 seemed to be sneezing due to the perfume of our waitress….said to me that she wore too much….Laurie..sans makeup this morning so she is not in the femme fatale mode….
michael – have you asked her why she must act in such a rude and ill-mannered way? Does she think people do not notice?
I would think it would not be very enjoyable to visit with your cousin when she was around. Leave her at home!
AnnieOakley, yes, you will LOVE the Iowa State Fair! The fine arts pavilion revelas how deeply talented Iowans are. No one will ever push you, even in the most crowded locations. My greatest pleasure is catching the Iowans in the act of being themselves. Maybe I don’t want to live there, but I admire Iowa.
There are two versions of "State Fair." Rogers and Hammerstein wrote the music and lyrics for the first, 1945 version, with Vivian Blaine, Dana Andrews and Jeanne Crain, and it’s available on DVD. Did you see the later version with Pat Boone?
You live somewhere that people are allowed to smoke cigars while walking through the grocery store?????
(Off Topic) Wow! Iowa State Fair! I saw the movie by that name in a motel one night. What a retro hoot it was — loved it. I hope the real thing measures up!
You must be logged in to reply to this topic.