Thanks guys. After hearing what people said, I’ve decided to take a break next year and do something different, like spend Christmas Eve with just my family going out to a nice restaurant. Maybe this will be the start of a new tradition. Does anyone have any better ideas?
It’s true–our kids have grown, and family configurations change. I did try to invite a few new people over each year, so we usually had a mix of old friends and new ones. It gave us a chance to catch up with our old friends that we don’t get to see as often throughout the year.
I understand people had legitimate excuses–even our tenant who is sick as a dog with the flu has a bad cough and stayed away for fear of passing his germs to everyone. It was still disappointing.
I have to say that I think this was one of my best Christmas Eve meals–peach flambe, top loin roast, cauliflower casserole (Barefoot Contessa’s recipe which was excellent), sweet potato pie done southern style, garlic mashed potatoes, and pumpkin parfait (also Barefoot Contessa’s) and chocolate truffles. We also had a great wine bar–my husband recently did some work for a wine wholesaler who paid us with a couple mixed cases of wine. We didn’t open some of the bottles we had been saving up for the special night.
We had our usual family get-together (aunties, uncles, cousins, etc.) for the annual family Christmas lunch, pot-luck style today. It was one of the better family reunions–there were no arguments or rude comments made this year. I guess everyone is just getting old or forgetful. Or maybe it was that full moon that put everyone in such a good mood!
I so second what, Al-the-Mayor-Bowen, said. Our immediate older kids still come over. Things do change! Change is only difficult if you are unwilling to change. Offlady, sorry about the disappointment you are going thru this holiday. Next year, maybe you and the mister can take a Hawaiian vacation!
A 10 lb. NY top loin roast! My wife and I will be right over. What time is dinner?
Either way, it was thoughtless to not give notice and/or cancel plans at the last minute, especially in light of the fact that this has been a long standing tradition.
Enjoy your day offlady and don’t let the irresponsible actions of others ruin your happiness. They’ll probably lament the fact they didn’t/weren’t able to attend.
Hope you have a Merry Christmas anyway.
I think I would agree with Fab-Oyster. It seems that the tradition has burned out (a bit). That happens as families grow and change. It happens within families also…not just at the neighbor/friend level. We are seeing a difference this year in how the older grandkids are reacting to our Christmas Routine. What has been important to us in the past seems less so this year to the next generation. We can react with disappointment, or roll with the change and find new traditions to carry the family thru the holidays.
You have a Christmas party every year? I would take a break from giving the Christmas party if you invite the same people over and over.
Lucky family. Sorry you had half your party cancel on you. I hope the rest of your guests and your family have a lovely dinner this evening. Try to save some daquiris for New Years maybe[:)]
For the past 10 years or so we’ve had Christmas Eve dinners at our home, inviting friends who normally don’t have relatives to spend the holidays with. I limit the number to 12 so we can have a nice sit down dinner with everyone which also allows for intimate conversations.
This year, one couple said they would definitely come, but a few days ago my husband was chatting with the husband and found out that the guy has to work so they wouldn’t be coming. If we didn’t ask, who knows if they would have called us to let us know that they weren’t showing up.
Then today (one day before the big dinner) I get another call from another family that all 4 of them won’t be showing up. They were short-handed at their store, and being the busiest time of the year for them, things were too hectic, and the kids made other plans, etc. Their two teenagers grew up with our two teenagers, and we always spend Thanksgiving dinners at their place while we reciprocate with Christmas Eve at our place. I am OK with their decision, but I am disappointed that now I have all this food.
My husband feels so bad for me knowing how much time and effort I spent into planning the meal. I know we will have a nice time. I’ve since invited a single girlfriend and my elderly mom to the dinner.
So now I have this 10 lb. NY top loin roast which I will half and serve for my dinner, and take the other half the next day to our family gathering for our big family potluck. Probably cancel the mulled cider, white wine, and donut tree.
And I guess my girlfriend and I will have to drink all the frozen mango daquiries ourselves.
People who cancel your Christmas Party
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