Well, I m still the mom but I m no longer the wife , or at least I won t be.
My husband fell in love with a co-worker and abandoned me for her. I just found out in mid-December and he moved out in mid-January, so this is very new to me and I m still reeling.
My thoughts, emotions and actions are all over the place. I alternately feel pain beyond belief, extreme anger, calm rationality, rejected, shocked, confident, cheerfully productive, debilitating sadness, totally frightened, weak, pathetic, fear of financial difficulties, hopeful, optimistic, terror about being alone, intrigued by possible independence, blaming myself, guilty, blaming him, defiant, a strong will to prevail emotionally intact, a gripping dread that I ll slip into emotional meltdown. I am proud of several wise actions and decisions that I ve made so far, as many of them have been very beneficial for my children and have spared them a lot of heartache.
I love him and I want him back, yet so far the facts of the case don t indicate a likely reconciliation. Yet I want to remain open to all possibilities. Just as the unexpected has already happened, another unexpected could happen. I don t want to proceed as if I ll never get him back, but I don t want to proceed as if I will get him back.
I ve been seeking any possible source of advice, information, caring, comfort, stories, concern and other support from family, friends, co-workers, church members, women s organizations, books, etc. I felt that the members of this forum might be another resource for me. I hope this topic is appropriate for our Miscellaneous Off Topic section. If so, I m interested in anything you have to say. Thank you so much.