A little while ago, I was pleased to receive an unexpected and very thoughtful email from another Roadfood member, who was just checking in to see how I was doing, and he happened to mention that in many ways Roadfood is like a family, which I heartily agree.
So, in the spirit of staying in touch with family during the holidays, I thought I d just let you know how I m doing, and get re-acquainted with everyone.
My divorce was final at the end of January 2008, so it was a two-year process. I handled the emotional, financial and legal situations very well, I think … kept the best interests of my children in mind … tried to deal with the trauma and drama without extending or shortcutting the necessary stages of change and adjustment. I live much more in the "present moment" now than I ever did before. I have a sense of optimism and hope for the future. Although my recovery was actually slow and steady, I eventually had a day in August 2008 when suddenly, and for no reason, I just realized I m happy again and it s been good ever since.
As I return to some of my old interests and develop some new interests, I expect to be a "Roadfood Regular" again. I want to change my username, but I’m not sure yet how I want to define myself. Previously "ImTheMom" was perfect because "mom" was my favorite role, and conveyed in a single word that my life was exquisitely blessed yet aggravatingly challenged all at the same time LOL! Still love being a mom, but now I need to find a descriptive name that reflects a wider array of my personal characteristics.
I have a profile on a popular Internet dating website Plenty of Fish and I ve had both good and bad experiences in meeting guys there. Recently, the plentyoffish and roadfood websites overlapped for me when a guy took me to dinner at York Tavern in Oak Brook, IL, which is definitely a Roadfood-worthy establishment, and led me to think about all of you again. Cozy local atmosphere, excellent hamburgers. I highly recommend it.
Thank you again to Rick for sending the check-in email to me, and hello and happy holidays to all of you. It feels good to be back!