I’d get a small turkey, and do the best of the traditional stuff that your and your spouse’s grew up with. That way you will be able to start your own traditions based upon the traditions of each of your families. The biggest benefit of this that when and if you have children, thn they will have traditions of their own.
I fix pretty much the same meal as my aunt did when I was growing up:
Stuffing – in the bird, and an oyster stuffing and a sausage stuffing cooked seperately, these two were from my spouses side of the family.
Green bean casserole – the Campbells Soup recipe
Cranberry Sauce -homemade – this is my addition
Lumpy Mashed potatoes – this was my mother’s addition – she was a lousy cook, which is why we went to my aunt’s house for dinner
Spinach salad with hot bacon dressing
Homemade mac and cheese for my vegatarian son
Homemade white flour rolls with fresh churned butter
Pumpkin Pecan Pie – this is my wifes’ mother’s addition,she won’t give me the contribution, she won’t give me the recipe. I think she is afraid we won’t invite her if we know how to bake the pies ourselves.
Killer garlic, hot pepper dill pickles,, also grammas recipe, however she did give me the recipe for this.
This is all started with an early morning trail ride, for whomever wants to take a horseback ride.