well HOLY CRAP…if ever there was a time for an epiphany this is it. I grew up in Californina where BBQing is "grilling" and whatever you can cook over an open flame is fair game. When we moved out to Tx our very good friends said "we’re having bbq for dinner tonight, join us" and I said "oh good, what are we eating" and the response was "bbq". We ended up eating pulled pork on a bun and I thought, thats not bbq, but now I get it. ALright so grilling is food cooked over and open flame and bbq is slow cooked with sauce right?? Does this finally make me a texan lol?